Wednesday, September 29, 2010

The Reluctant Commenter

This morning I officially diagnosed myself - yes, on the Internet - with Comment Reluctance. I read a zillion blogs, which really is only a bit of an exaggeration, through reader. I'll read posts and think: I've felt that, I had that struggle, Oooo - I found this worked, heck - I'd probably try this, wow - that's impressive, hey - look how far s/he has come, etc. etc. And you know what? I am reluctant to post a comment. Seriously.

I start thinking - who cares what I have to say, what if I offend s/he, what if I come off as a "know-it-all", does a one word comment really matter, the dreaded - will s/he think I am only posting to get a follower? etc. Well, today I am officially OVER IT! I realized this morning while reading Michelle's post on her blog that it's great she is really liking exercise and that I had a couple ideas she could try for the mild heartburn she is having and you know what? I put them in her comments. I realized that if nothing else she'll know I'm reading and she might: feel good as a result of getting a comment or even find a nugget of info to try out.

My thinking is pretty stupid really. Especially when one of the things I have said in my blog is that five years ago when I was banded there were very few blogs and the blogs were from people starting out like me. So, I'm kinda proliferating that in a way if I am thinking "stuff", but keeping in the shadows and not sharing my perspective/thoughts.

I am a work in progress as there unfortunately is no magic pill, but I'm going to work on putting the reluctance aside and assuming that when I do comment that the reader knows that even if the comment lacks eloquence that I have commented out of the best of intent: to help, share knowledge, and support.

BTW - (1) If you don't follow Michelle, go ahead and do so! (2) To each and every one of you that has commented on my blog, THANK YOU for not being a Reluctant Commenter! I do appreciate each and every one of them and the comments are what prompted me to start thinking more about this!


Island Bandit said...

yay! I love getting bits n pieces of your vast knowlege on banding :)

Jacquie said...

As much as I say that I blog for my own accountability, blah, blah, blah....I live for comments. They are what keeps me focused! I look forward to hearing from you!

Nella said...

The comments are the best advice!

Shaggs said...


Michelle said...

Thankyou so much for the comments. I love comments especially from a wise bandster. So keep the coming. I know I am coming up on a year but feel like I am constantly learning.

Jody V said...


I wish I lived near you so I COULD SMACK YOU!!

You mean more to us Bloggers than you can imagine! I know you are private but...I would love love love to see your gorgeous face! I still keep you last year;s Halloween pic for motivation. I also want to wear that Witches costume someday!

You rock our socks Fluffy and DON'T EVER STOP!

Angela said...

Yay for comments!!! Otherwise I don't think I would have found you!